@dosmasenlamesa, @marissajoanho
Meeting your partner's parents is a huge and exciting milestone! It shows how serious you are about your relationship and future together. And wanting to make a great first impression on your in-laws-to-be right from the get-go is absolutely natural. After all, you'll soon become a big part of each other's lives! Here, we've gathered some tips to help you start on the right foot and charm every member of the family.
Learn Before You Go
First and foremost, don’t be shy to ask your partner for help - your significant other is a valuable source of insider information. Who knows their family better than they do, right? Have an open and honest conversation with your partner to learn more about their parent’s general dos and don'ts, family traditions and any touchy or controversial topics you should stay away from during your first meeting. The more you know, the better!
Dress Appropriately
This one goes without saying. Sometimes, our clothes speak louder than words, and the right outfit is a big part of making that positive first impression. Well, that doesn’t mean you have to put on a ball gown or a formal suit, however your attire should be respectful for the occasion. It should reflect effort while still being comfortable and feeling like you. Keep the setting in mind, too! For example, choose something on the casual side for a cozy at-home family gathering, and a little more fancy for a high-end restaurant dinner.
Stay Curious
Remember, there's nothing annoying about asking questions. Just approach it thoughtfully, respectfully and keep it natural. By asking questions you can truly connect with your partner's family and show your sincere interest and care. Ask your in-laws-to-be about their hobbies, memorable experiences or interests. Also, take it as a chance to learn more about your partner's childhood days. His family, for sure, will enjoy reminiscing and might even share some family photos with you.
@dosmasenlamesa, @wedding_lesya
Keep the Conversation Light
The first meeting is all about getting to know each other in a positive light. So, it’s absolutely not the best time to discuss heavy and tricky topics that might potentially cause discomfort. Make sure to keep your dialogue sweet, simple and sincere. And don't be afraid to talk about yourself! Feel free to tell anecdotes from your life, share your goals and aspirations. Your partner's family is just as curious about you as you are about them.
Bring a Gift
Who doesn't like gifts? Not your future in-laws. That's for sure. A thoughtful gesture, like a homemade treat, a unique piece of art or just a flower bouquet, can break the ice and show how appreciative and excited you are for them welcoming you into the family. It doesn't have to be a super extravagant gift — just something that will make your partner’s family feel loved and cared for.
@_melanie__rodriguez_, @theoblist
They Are Just as Nervous
Meeting with family is such a big step in a relationship, so feeling a bit nervous is absolutely normal. And here’s the secret: you are not alone! Your in-laws-to-be, too, want to make a good first impression and chances are they feel the same way. It's all part of being human!
Be…You!
Yes, as simple as it sounds! Don't try to pretend to be someone you are not or sugarcoat things for the sake of impressing others. The goal is to show your partner's parents the real you — the person their son or daughter fell for and wants to share life with. So, stay relaxed, be confident, and trust that your future in-laws will appreciate you for who you are. Being sincere and genuine is the best way to win them over!
