The maid of honor is the chief bridesmaid, who is responsible for a variety of tasks, from planning a bachelorette party to delivering a heartfelt speech the day-of. Though for some brides selecting a person for this key role is a no-brainer, for others, it’s a real challenge. So how to get everything right? Read on for our advice.
Family or friends?
Your family and close friends are your pillars of support. They are the people who you can rely on without worrying. They know you better than anyone else and will do all it takes to make you feel loved and cared for. So, who to choose: a family member or a friend? It doesn't really matter! The main rule is that it should be the person who shares your vision and who you are drawn to the most. If you have a bestie who has been there for you through thick and thin, then consider picking her. If you have a big friend group and don’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings, choosing a family member is the wisest option. After all, the bond by blood is the strongest.
Think Outside the Box
Don’t be afraid to go beyond traditions. Instead of having one maid of honor, pick a few or… no at all. Gender shouldn't confine you, either. Say “no” to stereotypes, and have a man of honor! You can ask your brother, your cousin, or your close male friend to take the title. Either way, don’t get swayed by the opinions of others. Remember: you get to decide who and how many people should stand up with you on such a big day.
Don’t Pick Anyone Out of Obligation
Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for not choosing them for the role. If you’ve already been someone’s maid of honor that doesn’t mean you are obliged to make this person yours. Put yourself, your feelings and your comfort first! Your wedding is about you and your partner, so do whatever makes you happy, without feeling pressured into making a decision.
Look for the Right Traits
Being a maid of honor is a huge responsibility. So are your possible candidates up for a challenge? Write down all their strengths and weaknesses. When evaluating, be as fair and honest as possible. Rule out those people who might not handle the pressure. Choose someone who is a natural leader, an effective mediator, and has good organizational skills. The perfect maid of honor is a great communicator, listener and a peacemaker.
Go with Your Gut
Sometimes trusting your instincts over logic is the best. Don’t be scared to embrace the feeling in your gut, as it might point you in the right direction. Put all your worries away, listen to your inner voice, and let it guide you.