So, you've got a wedding invitation, but unfortunately, you can't make it to the celebration. That's absolutely fine - life happens, right? It might be because of conflicting schedules, problems with finances, health concerns or you just might not feel like going. Getting into such a situation can be quite stressful, but we've all been there! Wondering how to nicely say "No" to the wedding invite without hurting the couple’s feelings? Find out below!
While it's super important to give the invite a good amount of thought, make sure not to delay with your response. We know how hard it might be to say "No" and turn down an invitation from someone you care about. But absolutely do send your RSVP as soon as possible. Else, it might create unnecessary stress for both you and the soon-to-be-wedded couple. The last thing you'd want is to leave everyone hanging!
Consider Your Relationship With the Couple
How close are you with the couple? If you're not too close, then a simply check "No" on the RSVP card. And of course, be sure to include a thoughtful note with warm wishes! However, if you are in the couple’s inner circle, be a little bit more specific and detailed about why you won't be able to attend. Before sending a written decline, it's great to give the couple a heads-up about your decision through a call or email.
Begin by thanking the to-be-weds sincerely for the invitation and expressing your disappointment that you won't be able to make it to the celebration. The couple most likely spent a lot of time forming and finalizing the guest list, so let them know how much of an honor it's to you to be a part of it. Try to say the words you yourself would want to hear, if you were in a couple's position. Be honest, but not brutally honest! Sometimes it’s better to be vague rather than to make up stories that could complicate things later on.
Send a Gift
Sending a wedding gift, even if you have to decline the invitation, is always a thoughtful gesture! It's a wonderful way to express your sincere regrets for not being able to join the couple on their special day. Also, the gift allows you to become a part of their beautiful wedding memories. It doesn't have to be extravagant — simplicity can be just as meaningful.
Celebrate Another Time
If you have no choice but to decline the wedding invitation, don’t be hard on yourself. Things like this can happen, and the couple will definitely understand you. Especially if you are close to each other. To show the to-be-weds that they mean a lot to you, arrange an alternative date to celebrate the marriage together. Select the perfect date to meet up (sometime after the wedding would be best) and have an evening out. Treat the couple to dinner and drinks, and ask them to share some wedding day memories with you. Your efforts will definitely be appreciated!
Be There in Spirit
You might not be able to come to the celebration in person, but you can be there in spirit. How? Well, it's simple. Record a surprise video message and send it to the couple on the day of their wedding. Or you can write a congratulatory toast. Reach out to the best man or maid of honor beforehand, and kindly ask them to read your words of support during the speeches. Trust us, this will leave a good impression on the couple and the guests.