Blake Nelson, Oxana Nesmeyanova
For generations, the word "elopement" conjured images of couples sneaking away to marry in secret, often without family approval. But today’s elopements are anything but taboo. Modern couples are redefining the concept, trading guest lists and grand venues for a wedding that's authentic and intimate. For some, it's tying the knot at the civil hall just the two of you, and for others it's hosting a destination wedding with only your closest. Either way, elopements are about crafting a day that feels entirely your own and celebrating what's at the heart of your relationship: you and your partner.
What is an Elopement?
Traditionally, to elope meant to run away and marry without telling anyone. Today, the term has taken on a new meaning, now defined less by secrecy and more by intimacy. Typically including anywhere from just the couple to a handful of their closest guests, it's a small wedding that focuses on the couple's connection rather than a large scale event.
Why More Couples Are
Choosing to Elope
Many couples are drawn to elopements for their freedom and simplicity. Without the pressure of hosting a large wedding, they can focus on what truly matters: each other. For some, it’s about avoiding the financial strain when it comes to wedding planning while for others, it’s about escaping societal expectations. The flexibility to marry anywhere—be it a Parisian garden to a mountaintop in Patagonia—makes elopements especially appealing to couples with a sense of adventure or a desire for something unconventional.
What to Consider When
Planning an Elopement
While elopements are often seen as spontaneous, a little planning is still necessary. First, decide on a location that reflects your personalities and relationship. Will it be a chic courthouse ceremony or a destination escape? Then, consider logistics: legal paperwork, travel, photography, and attire. Many couples also choose to hire an elopement planner or photographer who specializes in intimate weddings to help with permits and timelines. And even if you’re keeping things small, don’t skip the personal touches; a handwritten vow exchange or a post-ceremony dinner can make the day unforgettable.
Who Attends an Elopement
Eloping doesn’t necessarily mean excluding everyone you love. Some couples choose to invite a select few—parents, siblings, or best friends—while others choose not to. Sharing photos or hosting a small reception later can also be a thoughtful way to celebrate with a wider circle without compromising the intimacy of your day.
So, is an Elopement For You?
At its heart, eloping is about stripping away the noise to focus on the essence of marriage: two people committing to a life together. It’s a celebration free from obligation or needing to please others; it feels honest and more personal. Whether you’re drawn to the simplicity, the adventure, or the romance of saying “I do” your way, an elopement offers the chance to create a wedding that’s as unique as your love story.
